Who should participate?
The concepts in this study will benefit any couple, whether they are cohabiting, newlyweds, engaged, or have been married for many years.
How many couples make a group?
We recommend four to seven couples (including you and your partner). If you have more people interested than you think you can accommodate, consider having someone else host a second group. If you end up with a large group, consider breaking up into smaller sub-groups at times. This helps you cover the material in a timely fashion, and allows for optimum interaction and participation within the group.
What if one partner of a couple, does not want to participate?
Expect that some people will attend the first session wishing that they were somewhere else. You can dispel a great deal of anxiety and resistance at the first session by mentioning that you know that there are probably some who are attending reluctantly. Say that you are pleased that each person is there regardless of why they came. Briefly comment that you are confident that each person will enjoy the study and will benefit from it—while the commitment to the study is short-term, the potential benefits could last a lifetime. And assure the group that no one will be forced to share publicly if they do not wish to do so.
Should an individual join the group alone?
It is best if a person does not join a HomeBuilders group alone. Learning the principles and seeing everyone else working together on their marriages could cause discouragement and dissatisfaction with the individual’s spouse. This does not mean if a person’s spouse is out of town that they should skip the study, however.
Can someone who doesn't go to church participate in a group?
What is the best setting for meeting?
To create an atmosphere that is friendly and comfortable, a home setting works well. You need to have a place where everyone can sit comfortably and see and hear each other. If your home will not work, see if another couple in the group would be willing to offer their home as your group’s meeting place.
What time schedule should be followed?
The material presented in each session is designed for a 90-minute study; however, we recommend a two-hour block of time. This will allow you to move through each part of the study at a more relaxed pace and include time for connection and supper. Be sure to keep in mind one of the cardinal rules of a small group: Good groups start and end on time. People’s time is valuable, and your group will appreciate your being respectful of this.
What are the ground rules for the study?
- Share nothing that will embarrass your spouse.
- You may pass on any question.
- Complete the project with your spouse prior to each session.
- Nothing that is said within the group leaves the group.
What other things are important to communicate to the group?
It is important that the couples commit to the group, to each other, and to the process of developing oneness in their marriages. They should also be committed to coming to each session and to completing the Homebuilders Project in between each session.
After introducing Homebuilders, what should the group decide?
- Meeting nights and times
- Where to meet
- Who will be responsible for supper (this is good to rotate after the first meeting)
- Babysitting arrangements, if needed
Do you still have questions?