Obviously, some experience in small groups would be helpful, but if you have basic conversational skills, then you’ll do fine. Homebuilders workshops are written so that the group host just needs to ask the questions. You don’t need to be an accomplished teacher to host a Homebuilders workshop. In fact, your role is that of a facilitator, not a lecturer. The main function of the facilitator is to keep the discussion moving in the right direction and to provide an environment of openness, warmth, and acceptance of one another.
If you are unsure about your ability to host, consider co-hosting with another couple or rotate leadership around the group. You can divide the responsibilities. Together, you can trust God to work in your lives and help other couples.
The best hosts are couples who are willing to share their successes and weaknesses while trying to have a better relationship. Unless you and your partner are working through severe problems in your relationship, chances are you could do a good job of hosting other married couples. Let them know from the outset that you are learning just as they are.
One host told us, “We have now hosted Homebuilders workshops for three years. You don’t lead the group as much as you guide it. You’re not a counsellor, but you’re just another married couple who wants to see relationships work.”
When it comes to marriage enrichment, those who have been previously married may feel they have nothing to offer. Since they have been divorced, they think that nobody will listen to their experiences or insight. This is far from true. Couples who have suffered the heartbreak of a divorce often go the extra mile to prevent this from happening to others and often make outstanding hosts. God has greatly used many couples that have a background of divorce.
While there are no requirements to host a Homebuilders workshop, the following are some traits that we hope are embodied by the Homebuilders host:
A desire to allow God to work in and through your life as you reach out to others.
Galatians 5:22-23 tells us that the “fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control…” It’s impossible to live the Christian life in your own power, and that’s why God gave us His Holy Spirit, who dwells within you. He gives you the power and wisdom you need to make the daily choices of life. He gives us the discernment and sensitivity to leave a legacy as hosts.
We would rather have a regular couple controlled by God’s Holy Spirit hosting others than a bible college graduate or a professional counsellor not controlled by the Spirit. The reason being, every Homebuilders group is different, and every situation and every person is unique. There is no way that you can be trained to deal with every situation. But the Holy Spirit can and will give you wisdom in any situation.